I am from Sydney Australia and if rumours are true I will be seeing you sometime in the near future at a Sydney concert, (Fingers Crossed)

I am writing to ask if you have thought of bringing out CHILDREN'S KISS CLOTHES. ( Stage outfits) $$$$$$$

When you think about it there are so many young kiss fans these days it would be mad not to think about it at least.

My Daughter Nicoletta is five and all she does it mimick you. She is looking forward to dancing on stage with you. GOD HELP US ALL.

Look forward to seeing you and look out for that young blonde making her way to the stage.


Cheers Matey

Vicki Garatoudi
xxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Gene,

What are your thoughts on the battle over gay marriage? Personally, I don't know why anyone would fight to get INTO marriage, when there are so many compelling reasons to stay out of it, whether your hetero or homosexual. Equal rights for all I'm in favor of, but not more marriages of any kind!

All the best,
Dave

PS: Don't stop until you're pushing up daisies...you're the undisputed king of rock 'n' roll!

Response from Gene:

I don't want to get married, but believe anyone should have the right to do so, if they wish. The law is what it is. But it will change.

I believe consenting adults should be able to decide for themselves whatever they desire. If two men or two women want to be with each other in matrimony. They should be allowed. If ten women want to be with one man, or the other way around, I believe it should be allowed.

Consenting adults.

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Gene--

I've been a loyal fan , like millions of others,I don't feel the need to tell you how much your music has meant to me-you've heard it all-but reading the book , and the interviews, i belive that you love your fans--I just wanted you to know i had a baby girl the 17th of feb, her name is beth.-and yes it is after the song, when she is old enough i'll play the song for her, and let her know she was named after your band, when i was younger, (16), i used to dress like you and the band , me and three of my closest friends, last hallowen, i again put the grease paint on, --you helped be grow up.---and she will always be beth.-todd leander-39-sunrise fla.

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In response to your February 18 Post:

You have an interesting theory on the differences in men and women. I'd like to share my thoughts on the subject.

I believe that people cheat for different reasons regardless of gender.

My two sisters and I owned a bar and grill for seven years, and I've seen and learned a lot about people. It's true that men regardless of marital status are looking for women. However, these men were leaving with someone and more than 50% of the time those women were married. Believe me, I've seen it first hand.

Women have desires for men other than their boyfriends or husbands, and sometimes we act on them. We just don't talk about it, in mixed company anyway. Half the women I know have cheated at least once. It's not to say that the other half don't cheat, they've just never been caught because they know how to keep their mouth shut.

Every time a woman jumps into bed with a guy, she isn't necessarily looking for a boyfriend; sometimes she just wants to get laid. This happens a lot more than you may think. Younger women especially don't have that "nice girl", "bad girl" hang-up that women 20+ years ago had. Sexual attitudes are changing.

Just for the record, there is no such thing as a nice girl. We're all bad; some of us just hide it better.

As far as your question on how can men and women get along with all our differences, I have know idea. If I did, then I could get rid of my boyfriend and concentrate on my marriage. Just kidding…

Michelle

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Dear Gene,

Thanks for having an ongoing dialogue with us on your site, I read it with interest-
I must however warn you that your statements are purely theoretical. Take, for example, your claim that women want one man who supports them and that men, in contrast, want multiple partners. "it's the way it is, just accept it" you said. You must realize that you are speaking from an evolutionairy perspective here, and evolutionairy psychology is nothing more than a theory. It's NOT scientific fact.
First of all, society is changing and so are gender roles and "gender-appropiate behavoirs". The truth is that a great deal of the gender-related behavior you are talking about is learned behavior, which means it can be changed. And the truth is, it IS changing. Women don''t need men for money, because they can get a job themselves nowadays.
Second of all, the reason why a lot of people get married is because they wanna make sure they will not be alone for all their lives. Most people have a fear of being alone, and marriage is, for them, a solution to that problem. And this type of behavior is NOT related to gender, it's related to personality: for some people this fear is bigger than for others. But it counts for many women AND men.
I agree with you, however, that MOST marriages don't work. This is due to the fact that marriage is a promise based on a current emotion. When people get married they THINK they will feel the way they feel now for the rest of their lives. Unfortunately, people can't predict their emotions, because the environment changes and so do the emotions that accompany them. That's the reason many marriages don't work. Failed marriages are NOT caused by differences between men and women.
This is statistical fact.
So the real question is: why are you so obsessed with marriage? Care to venture?

Sincerely,
Victor Kas
The Netherlands
p.s I'm looking foward to hear your album!

Response from Gene:

Hmmm. Obsessed with marriage. I've never been there. Not too familiar with the term, actually.

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Hmmm…..Science vs. Nature. This one is interesting to me. Two observations I made during the recent round of letters posting. In one instance, you said the fact that men access multiple partners is not a choice. Maybe I misunderstood you, but I think it is a choice. I agree with you that biologically we are programmed to seek out multiple partners but the fact that we do or do not IS a choice. We choose to accept our biology or we choose to fight it. Kinda goes to what you have said previously about deeds vs. beliefs. You may believe that we are programmed to promiscuous, but your deeds may keep you monogamous.

The other point….

It seems that a lot of men are just saying that women should "live with it." It doesn't seem to me that any of these men are putting the shoe on the other foot. What if their women were out screwing as many guys as they wanted?? If you want to fool around, don't expect your wife, girlfriend, etc. not to.

And one final thought. As I think about it, I don't think you can argue that women are programmed to be with ONLY one male. I think they are programmed to be with the biggest strongest male - especially in nature. For example, say we are cave people and one man and one woman are together. Then, along comes another male - bigger and stronger than the first. If these two males compete for the same female, she might ultimately go with the new male if he defeats the old one in a fight for her attention. Thus, multiple partners for the female. Granted, not to the same extent as males of the species, but multiple partners never the less.

Thoughts?


rich.recker@********.com

Response from Gene:

I believe in no fault insurance. I believe everyone should be free to do whatever makes them happy, without checking in with anyone else. The only one who ever had the right to ask me anything, gave me birth -- my mother. Everyone else has nothing to say about your happiness.
But, this means the same rules apply for women!!! They should be able to do whatever they like. Whether you like it, or not.

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I think all of you are missing, what I perceive, as Gene's point...

It's true that men most likely cannot control the urge of being with multiple partners. That is the part that makes us men...that is the part that is biology. "Ooooh...she looks good. I'd like to...(use your imagination here)." The part that becomes choice is if men actually "do the deed." Men can certainly make a decision to keep their pants zipped or to simply not pursue multiple partners at all (the latter of which is the easier and safest of the two). Gene, please correct me if I'm wrong here.

As for how men and women can make it work...simple. If the man commits to a woman, he has to give up that right to pursue multiple partners. And women have to understand that men will still have those urges...those desires...even if he doesn't give in to them. "Just because I'm on a diet, doesn't mean I can't look at the menu." 

On the other hand, women should not have to be understanding if men commit to them and still go after other women, as it will NOT work that way for sure. Just as you say, Gene...everyone should have FULL DISCLOSURE. Do not commit to a woman if you are not ready to give up exploring any and all women in the world who may give you the time of day. 

Jeff
Jacksonville, FL

P.S. Saw you recently when you destroyed our new arena here in Jax. You were an animal on stage, as always. Had no idea you were sick until I read your posts on the website later...sets a great example for everyone.

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Hello Gene

The answer is as simple as it is complicated. First off women have been brainwashed into believing that the one guy routine will work to their satisfaction. But the main reason for the high rate of divorce in North America is due to the fact that the expectations are set to high. We have been brainwashed by Walt Disney - The Brady bunch and every "Happily Ever After" TV show and movie ever produced.

I have always believe that one person cannot sexually satisfy another for their entire life. Some may say that they can or that another does it for them, but we have as a species (both male and female) been programmed to roam. Marriage was invented so that Kings and others for matter could fuck your wife and sometimes doing so while you got to watch.

The one man per woman thing arose out of selfishness, a need for security and a refusal to understand the difference between love and sex. You do not have to love someone to have sex with them although that does increase the satisfaction when the two do gel together. A lot of us who also grew up in the 50's and 60's were taught that sex was only for procreation and not for pleasure. If this were true why do our senses experience such pleasure at the height of orgasm, it would only be a matter of inserting sperm into a vagina if it were just for procreation, kind of like "immaculate conception" with the transfer taking place with my sperm in my hand and pushed against a vagina - LOL - Hey don;t laugh as I this is the only way that I can explain how Jesus' Mom Mary did it!!!

But back to the serious question of how do we make it work. The easiest way to make it work is through honesty, communication and the ability to understand that it is only sex for satisfaction and pleasure. I personally think that the easiest way to facilitate this is to never attempt to control what your partner wants to experience. This is where the honesty, communication and understanding come in. This does not mean that you have an open card to do anybody that meets your fancy. But if you are in a relationship and are attracted to someone else then it has to be fair to both partners. It is not an affair if you have permission and I think that is the secret to handling this situation. You can never say "Well your count is four partners and I have only had one so therefore I will have to say No this time." That will only create resentment and jealousy. Taking proper safety precautions and knowing who you are sleeping with is also a very important factor.

I personally have given my wife permission to experience whom she wants and she has had a quite a few more experiences that I. We have been together for 21 years now and married for 11 of those. But as I have said it is not about the count as to who is ahead in the game. It is about being able to experience those things in life which you want to. Marriage and relationships are not about controlling the other person but being able to share their and your experiences with each other. I think that sexual pleasure is one of the greatest gifts that our senses provide to us and the ability to share this with someone else is also a very beautiful thing. Why should mutual attraction or sexual pleasure be limited to one particular person.

Anyway I think the secret is honesty, communication and understanding. It is not an affair if you have permission!! :-P


Tony Samuels
Toronto, Canada
Feb. 20/04

Response from Gene:

I believe it's much simpler than that. The only thing wrong with marriage, is that one of the two is usually a man.